Confessions Of A Relevant Hubby

I‘m honored to have my husband guest posting his thoughts on The Relevant Conference.  As you know my life and heart were revolutionized and it has directly impacted our home and marriage.  Here’s my husband’s side of the story…

Holding HandsAppearances can certainly be deceiving.

When we began our journey to Relevant ’10, I was happy to prepare and pack. I was happy that I would have a few days to take care of Ridley so Myra could focus on growing friendships and growing her blog. Never did I ever imagine that my wife would come home from a blogging conference, blogging less. Never did I imagine that my heart’s needs would also be exposed and met.  Through Myra’s being challenged to be a committed, godly wife and mother first, Relevant ’10 changed at least one man’s heart and life too.

It’s so easy to get caught up “ministering” to others, living in a virtual world while we miss the most precious gifts of our own family. I know, I’m a blogger too. Issues at home pile up in our hearts, and we sweep the clutter under the rug of cyberspace, presenting to the world what we want them to see.

I laugh sometimes at my father-in-law, also my pastor, for his refusal to learn computer skills. He still writes all his sermon notes by hand and rarely even sends emails. He’s only recently gotten a cell phone. But yet, he is a person you can always count on having a meaningful and heart-ministering conversation with. He’s people-focused. He’s Christ-centered. And he’s never learned to trade the smaller circle of deep local ministry for the wider circle of, so often, shallow blog-façade.

Thank you God, for ministering to my wife at The Relevant Conference.  During our 13 hour drive home, through the tears of our conversation and confession, Myra and I reconnected in a way we hadn’t for a long time. Her testimony of meeting God at Relevant has made me bask in some much needed sunshine. Like my wife, I’m blogging less now but more intentionally. I’m shoving away the extra “evening add-ons” and I’m pouring back into my family.

I’ve got my marriage back. I’ve got my home back.

Oh, we still loved each other before, but now it’s like those first days of marriage again. I’m hugging my wife and son to my heart afresh and rejoicing in investing myself anew in my local church, in meaningful relationships.

And that’s relevant.

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22 Comments

  10. Wow! My heart always giggles when I read Ernie’s comments on your blog, but this is divine. With my husband being in the military, this is similar to how we feel everytime he comes home. Sure, like you, we still love each other after he’s been home a while, but sometimes life takes you away from moments before you even have them. It’s then that you need to take yourself away from other things and prioritize all over again. I know for me, sometimes after my husband has been gone for a while, God will come and tap me on the shoulder. He tells me that I need to really show my husband love when he comes home…not just show him through the meals I put on the table, the laundry I do…or the deployment bags I pack. We love each other dearly, I know that..after all, my husband still opens the car door for me, every single time he’s home. I give him a kiss in return, but sometimes, the only other kisses we give each other are before work, after work, and before bed. Sometimes, in his line of work, he’s here…but, not all of him. I wish I could have at least enjoyed the live streaming of Relevant, but I know that y’all are putting out a really powerful message, and I thank you so much for this. I read a few blogs, but yours always speaks to my heart. I always read Sunday Meditations after church. I don’t know what I was really trying to say in all this…In fact, I’m really sorry if I “talked” too much here…I suppose I’m just trying to say that I understand, and thank you. 🙂

    Many Blessings,
    Kristine
    Kristine´s last blog post ..Follow Me Back Tuesday

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  11. This is so awesome to read~ I’m so touched by all the different, yet relevant ways attendees (and their spouses) were impacting by a “blogging” conference. 🙂 God is big, and answers in such unique ways!

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  12. Thanks for sharing with us Ernie! Long car rides are the perfect place for long conversations. So very happy for the reconnection you are experiencing! Hugs to you all!

    Still praying for that house to sell…..
    Cherie´s last blog post ..The Relevant Experience

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  21. Love this post! I am so happy to read this! I don’t have many followers and I blog mainly for family in different states and I have recently started blogging less and it is so great and family still gets the updates! We don’t have Internet, so that helps me stay offline but overall it has been great to be weened from the Internet! Now when I am online I am spending my time at meaningful sites (like this one!) and less time mindlessly surfing.

    Good for you with setting your new blogging goals!
    Shelley´s last blog post ..Pumpkin Carving

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