I have to say that I’m finally learning to embrace this crazy, insane three year old stage that Ridley is in. It was a very difficult adjustment for me…actually probably for both of us. The two year old stage was a cake walk compared to the challenges that three has brought.
I’m slowly learning what it means to be a boy mom. I guess it’s a good thing since I’m about to have another babe of the male gender. Ha!
I thought I would share some of the highlights and humor of parenting this little gift from God with y’all today.
1. When you ask for something, prepare for it to be thrown at you.
We’re working on training that it’s inappropriate to throw when we say “please hand me….” Ahem. It’s hard to keep a straight face when he tosses his itty bitty Thomas the Tank undies up high in the air…or when they land in my lap…or on my head. With all that said, Ridley has a great arm on him and can throw a baseball quite well. I think sitting at the ball field is in my future.
2. Guns rock!
Sticks, baseball bats, hangers, curtain rods – you name it – everything is a gun to fight off the bad guys. And we’re working on the reality that mom and dad aren’t the bad guys.
3. Impulsive much?
Oh y’all. If there was ever a child who reminds me of myself, it is my dear first-born son. I look back at all the embarrassing impulsive things I did and that helps me show a lot of grace to Ridley who doesn’t think a single bit before he does something. Maybe he will grow out of this stage by the time he’s twenty. Haha!
4. They will embarrass you.
I could write a book right here, but let’s just say…it will happen.
5. Singing is everything.
From the months of him growing inside me to now, Ridley has been exposed to music. He bounced around inside me at his uncle’s symphony concerts and when I played the piano for church. I’ve sung to him almost every night before bed and we sing throughout the day. If Pandora isn’t going, then we usually have a CD playing. It rejoices my heart to hear him sing truth.
6. Snuggling is very important.
I never dreamed that having a boy meant that he needed momma snuggle time every day. We snuggle up and read books or watch an episode of Busytown on Netflix. I also rock him and sing to him before bed. I treasure these moments because I know they won’t last forever.
7. Three year olds are gentle forgivers.
This probably goes without saying, but parents make mistakes. I make mistakes. I raise my voice in frustration at times. I sin. But I get on my knees in front of my little man and say, “I’m so sorry. Will you forgive me?” He always forgives and doesn’t hold it against me. Adults could learn a great lesson from this…forgive and let it go.
8. Stubbornness is part of the package.
Ridley didn’t really have a chance in this matter. Both of his parents are stubborn as oxen, so it’s only understandable why he would have his own stubborn streak. Someday that stubbornness will be used for some incredible work for God, but for now, he’s learning…trying to learn…that he’s not in charge. Can you imagine three stubborn people being in charge of a home? What a mess that would be! Ha!
9. They LOVE so big.
One evening, my hubs and I were getting ready for bed, when we heard Ridley yell to us from his room, “I love you Mommy and Daddy and Baby Cameron. You’re my best gifts from God.” My heart pretty much melted. I tell Ridley all the time those words about him, his daddy and his baby brother. It is amazing what you pour in, comes back out. It is a beautiful thing.
My Mom always told me that I would have a slew of boys. God has made me to be a boy mom…at least to two. I’m growing and adjusting to the reality that greets me every day. I wouldn’t trade this crazy, good life for anything.
As I spend my days nursing boo-boos, blushing from some insane thing my son does or says, training, loving, snuggling, hugging, reading, teaching, coloring and playing all sorts of things, I remember this gift….this incredibly precious gift that God has given me.
Everything about him makes the investment of my life into his worth it all.
Have you mothered a three year old boy?