Late one afternoon, there was a knock at my door. I could see a shadowy figure through the glass front door – he looked like my dad, sort of. I checked my phone to see if I missed a call because Dad never just stops by.
Ridley was sleeping. Whoever it was kept knocking and trying to look through the door. Then they rang the doorbell. Argh! I hurried to the door and looked through. The strange man was wearing a badge, so I did the dumbest thing I could have ever done.
I opened the door!
The safety of women is incredibly close to my heart. I think about it often. I play different scenarios out in my mind. What I would do in this situation or what I would do in that situation.
So, I’ve decided to share a few women’s safety tips with you. I’m not professionally trained in self-defense or women’s safety, but I’ve learned a few things over the years. I hope that this information will help you to be more prepared in case of danger.
- Be aware. Women appear more vulnerable so we are an easy target for men. So, be aware in parking lots (the #1 place women are attacked), in stores, when you’re putting your kids in the car, when you’re going running or taking a walk. Be aware anywhere and everywhere.
- Don’t leave a store digging through your purse. Being distracted looks vulnerable and is vulnerable, so have your car keys ready!
- Take a self defense class. My mom, sister and I took a self defense class a couple of years ago through community education. It was about $15 for 2 hours of instruction from a certified instructor. The class was very informative and I’m considering taking it again to become more comfortable with “the moves.” Bwahaha!
- Plan what you will do. Playing “what if” situations in your mind is one of the best things you can do for your own safety. For example, if someone is coming “aggressively” toward me (or from behind me) in a parking lot (or anywhere for that matter), I plan to call them out, take charge of the situation and not become the victim. I won’t scream and play the victim.
- Carry pepper spray. You can find pepper spray (mace) at your local outdoors store. Most mace comes with a keychain attachment, so you can have it close at hand, just in case.
- Pack a punch in your purse. It might be worth it to check into your state’s concealed weapon permit regulations and laws. I know a lady who was in a Walmart parking lot and a man was coming at her. She told him she had a gun and he kept coming. She pulled out her pistol and he turned around and went the other way. It’s something to think about for sure!
Back to the story…
The man explained that he was from some government agency looking for Mr. So-and-so. I had no idea who it was and told him I was sorry I couldn’t help him.
Fortunately for me, he turned around and walked towards his car.
I didn’t think about it any more until I was telling my husband about it at dinner time. He almost came unglued – to put it mildly. He made me think of all the awful things that could have happened.
In all honesty, I opened the door to make the man on my porch stop knocking and ringing the door bell, but I also didn’t want to be rude. What a risk it was – one I don’t plan on taking again.
What do you do to stay safe? Do you have a plan to defend yourself?